Why You Shouldn’t Go to Your Pastor for Counseling

ther-a-pist • noun: a person who helps people deal with mental or emotional problems by talking about those problems: a person trained in psychotherapy Sometimes, friends or community members provide the sounding board that we need to process the things that hold us back from mental wholeness. Sometimes, we may need more. Counseling and Therapy are NOT the Same Don’t get me wrong. I just want to set the record straight. Most pastors give wise, godly counsel. But a pastoral…

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Find Your Pod, Tell Your Story

Sto-ry • noun: an account of incidents or events We can nurture ourselves through story—both by sharing our story and listening to other people’s stories. Find Your Pod, Tell Your Story The captain of the whale-watching tour ship called out over the loudspeakers, “Look to nine o’clock and you’ll see a bottlenose dolphin!” The passengers rushed to the port side and crowded eagerly around the railing. “Do you see it?” I asked one of my students. “Over dere,” he said,…

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Self-Help is NOT a Dirty Word

Self-help• noun: the action or process of doing things to improve yourself or to solve your problems without the help of others. This post is part of the 31 Ways to Nurture Yourself series. The acronym MAPS explains the four key components of learning to nurture ourselves in a balanced way. Self-Help Books Act as GPS Programs to Help us Navigate Life Achieving mental wholeness means having a growth mindset. We must put in the effort to keep our emotions from…

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Do You Need to Write a Memoir?

Mem-oir noun: a written account in which someone describes past experiences. Memoir, Maybe? Even though I’ve journaled on a daily basis for 37 years, I still find that certain events in my life require more than just a journal entry to make sense of them. Yesterday we learned about the health benefits of journaling as a way to achieve mental wholeness. Today we’ll talk about what to do if journaling doesn’t provide relief or growth. I discovered that after my…

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Just Journal Your Way to Mental Wholeness!

jour-nal • noun: a book in which you write down your personal experiences and thoughts. Yesterday I defined the term ‘mental wholeness.’ For the next few days, I’ll share ways to yourself as you seek mental wholeness. Bad Beginnings The Diary of Anne Frank inspired my first attempt at journaling. I decided that I, too, would write to ‘Kitty’—after all, my regular correspondents, my older cousins, suddenly had no interest in writing letters to a snotty younger cousin once they hit their…

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What Exactly IS Mental Wholeness?

whole•adjective :having all the parts: not divided or cut into parts or pieces From Repression to Revelation I grew up in an era of repression. Self-repression, that is. If one had a doubt or a problem, one kept quiet about it. Sure, the characters on the Bob Newhart Show talked about mental health (but mostly as fodder for comedy). People didn’t go to counselors, they went to shrinks. In fact, the origin of the word ‘shrink’ is ‘headshrinker.’ In other…

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31 Ways to Nurture Yourself

nur-ture • noun : the care and attention given to someone or something that is growing or developing The Dangers of Forgetting to Nurture Yourself During my first caregiving journey, I learned the hard way what happens if a caregiver doesn’t take care of herself (or himself). For ten months, I lived in a whirlwind of what-ifs and ‘your-husband-might-not-make-its.’ During that time, I thought I had everything under control (with God’s help, of course). My kids ate, I knew where they were…

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I Confess (and I Hope I’m Not the Only One)

I Confess (and I Hope I’m Not the Only One) Around me, young people jumped to their feet as the song leader strummed and a young lady whispered to her companion behind me. I loved that the youth had so much enthusiasm that they voluntarily stood up for the praise song. That started the first tear. I confess, I get weepy over good praise songs. The second tear slid down my face as the lyrics worked their way into my…

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Overlooking the Plain is Overlooking the Plan

A Plain Bird I spotted a bird sitting on the curb across from my house as I headed out the door for a run. Never one to miss a photo op with a bird, I ran back inside for my camera. I thought that perhaps the resident juvenile Cooper’s Hawk had dropped by for a visit. Focusing the lens, I called out to my youngest daughter. “Sarah!  It’s not my hawk, it’s a roadrunner!”  We took turns looking through the…

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No Kid is Hopeless (They Just Need Support)

A Must-Have Book if You Want to Understand If you’ve never read The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie, go buy a copy and read it. You’ll understand the word support if you do. You’ll understand a hugely underrepresented and misunderstood slice of the population by the time you reach the last page. I read the book (along with Navajos Wear Nikes: A Reservation Story by Jim Kristofic) before I interviewed for my current job. I…

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