A Must-Have Book if You Want to Understand
If you’ve never read The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie, go buy a copy and read it. You’ll understand the word support if you do. You’ll understand a hugely underrepresented and misunderstood slice of the population by the time you reach the last page.
I read the book (along with Navajos Wear Nikes: A Reservation Story by Jim Kristofic) before I interviewed for my current job. I thought I understood teenagers—after all, I’ve worked with them for over twenty years. Teach an unruly group of adolescents? No problem. Take on a room full of twitchy junior high students who don’t speak English? Piece of cake.
Understand one of the basic problems tormenting Native American young adults? I had no clue until I read Alexie’s book. Do you wonder why I think you should read a book about a kid on the Spokane Indian Reservation? It has to do with support.
A Life-Changing Look at Support
In the book, Junior (the protagonist), gets suspended from school for chucking a textbook across the classroom. The textbook thwacks a teacher in the face. The next day, the teacher, Mr. P, shows up on Junior’s doorstep. Junior figures the teacher wants to berate him for losing his temper.
After talking for a few minutes, the teacher turns to Junior and says,
“I want you to say it,” Mr. P said.
“Say what?”
“I want you to say that you deserve better.”
I couldn’t say it. It wasn’t true. I mean, I wanted to have it better, but I didn’t deserve it. I was the kid who threw books at teachers.
“You are a good kid. You deserve the world.”
At this point in the story, I start to cry—just like Junior does when he hears a white adult tell him he deserves the world.
Junior cries because no teacher has ever said anything nice to him like that before.
I cry because as a teacher, I realize that all too often I forget to say nice things to my students. In the busyness of teaching, cat-herding, and trying to incite young minds to want to think, I forget to offer basic human support.
I forget to encourage my students with those basic words. “You deserve the world. I believe in you. You can do it.” Rez kids don’t hear that. They don’t grow up with a positive attitude about their rosy future served up in a bottle of designer baby formula.
No kid is hopeless case, but in many cases, they don’t have hope. #fmfparty Click To TweetThey come from broken homes. Sometimes, they don’t eat because no one buys food for them. They grow up thinking that they don’t deserve much of anything. No one tells them, “You need to study algebra because you’ll need it for college one day.”
And so, I’ve learned a lot about support. Verbal support, emotional support, and prayer support. No kid is hopeless case, but in many cases, they don’t have hope.
Just Do It
So go out an buy the book (affiliate link). I should warn you, Alexie writes for a young adult, secular audience. I only blushed once. Alexie keeps it pretty clean, but it also tells it like it is.
I love this book! Great post.
I want to write like Sherman Alexi when I grow up 😉 (ok, maybe just like he writes for YA).
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I’ll have to check out this book. And as our friend Susan says, “Hope changes things!” I’m in the 6 spot this week.
Amen! Hope changes things—sometimes it takes a long time to take hold.
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Definitely on my list. And I was the kid who threw books at teachers, too.
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Aww, Andrew! I can’t imagine you throwing books! It’s a wonder how God changes us as we grow closer to him.
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Anita, even with my own children, when one of us is “in a mood,” it’s easy to forget that they need to hear words of encouragement and hope. This sounds like a great read!
That’s what I love about do-overs with kids! Mine were always willing to replay the nasty scene fueled by bad moods.
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This book sounds really interesting- and I agree that words of hope and encouragement can make a massive difference!
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Let me know what you think if you end up reading it!
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Every child deserves hope! I couldn’t agree more. It’s why my husband and I have spent the last decade of our lives investing ourselves in orphans and vulnerable children—and will spend the rest of our lives doing the same. Bless you for your heart for children… and your teaching! Thank you for the book recommendation.
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Hope – everyone needs a little hope. Sounds like a good book – perfect one for you!
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So powerful! Of course — coming from Yakima (Yakama Indians) this hits close to home. Our church has reached out to a few ministries that work on the Rez and have tried to help bridge the gap and speak life into these kids! I’m sure even when you don’t SAY those things though, my friend… I’m sure the kids can FEEL them!
The way you feel about these kids is the way I’ve come to feel about the homeless. We get so locked up in our own little worlds, our own cares blinding us to the needs of others. Thank you so much for reminding us to look around and reach out.
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I am SO intrigued by these book recommendations! I am encouraged as I continue to keep loving on the sweet kids that pass through our church.
Such a powerful reminder to look up every once in a while and remember that we are called to minister grace to people. Thanks for this! I’m in spot #53. God bless!
What a needed reminder. We can be so focused on correcting the bad behavior that we forget that’s the very time they most need encouragement and hope.
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