Do we really need to speak well of our children? It seems like a no-brainer, but unless we make a concerted effort, we may fall into the habit of disparaging our kids.
The Opposite of Speaking Well of Our Children
Brat. Unruly. Terrible twos. Shy. Selfish. Timid. Disorganized. Struggling. Unmotivated. Dishonest. Liar. Flighty. Troubled. What would happen if the key people in your life thought these things about YOU?
Years ago, when I first started teaching, I learned the value of speaking (and thinking) well of my students. If I thought my class would act in an unruly, irresponsible way, they would. But if I treated them with respect, thought positive things about them, and spent time encouraging them, they would act differently.
Think about the people you enjoy spending time around. Do they whine and complain about others in your presence? Or do they talk positively about others? Does spending time in their presence inspire confidence?
Now think about the people in your life who drain your batteries. How do they talk about their kids, co-workers, or spouse? How do their words shade your perception of the ones they talk disparagingly about?
When we speak well of our children (and other people in our lives) it has long-lasting effects. Not just for the ones spoken about, but for ourselves and the others who hear our words.
When you speak well of your children, you aren’t necessarily bragging. Sometimes, the two might overlap. What proud parent doesn’t like to post good news on social media? But learning to speak well of your children goes so much deeper. And has consequences you may never have considered.
If you haven’t formed a habit of speaking well of your children, you can start today!
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