Self-help• noun: the action or process of doing things to improve yourself or to solve your problems without the help of others.
This post is part of the 31 Ways to Nurture Yourself series. The acronym MAPS explains the four key components of learning to nurture ourselves in a balanced way.
Self-Help Books Act as GPS Programs to Help us Navigate Life
Achieving mental wholeness means having a growth mindset. We must put in the effort to keep our emotions from stagnating in the pool of repeated communication patterns. It takes work to evaluate your current mindset and plumb the depths of your emotions to see where you could change. Journal writing can often pry the lid off of what makes you feel stuck, enabling you to start growing again.
Throughout my decades of journal writing and periods of memoir writing, I discovered that I had fallen into certain negative communication patterns. I tend to avoid conflict at all costs (unless it involves confronting a stranger—go figure). If I feel emotional or upset about a topic, I stuff my emotions. Oh, I also like to blame other people (“if you hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have needed to do this”).
Pedro has lovingly pointed out my weaknesses. I have read countless self-help books over the years to work on my communication skills. It took me awhile, but I finally realized that I can always improve my mental wholeness by learning from others.
First, I’ll share some of my favorite titles here from Christian authors. (I’m also including affiliate links for the books. If you happen to purchase one, I get a small commission from Amazon).A treasure trove of #self-help books to help you achieve #mentalwholeness. #write31days Click To Tweet
Health Food Junkies: Orthorexia Nervosa, by Stephon Bateman,M.D.
Chasing Silhouettes: How to help a loved one battling eating disorders by Emily T. Wierenga
Hurt: Inside the World of Today’s Teenagers by Chap Clark
Inside a Cutter’s Mind: Understanding and Helping Those Who Self-Injure by Jerusha Clark and Earl R. Henslin
Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse by Mary DeMuth
The Hidden Half of the Gospel by Paul Coneff and Lindsey Gendke
Get out of that Pit by Beth Moore
Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
Have a New Kid by Friday, Dr. Kevin Leman
Communication Skills and Relationships
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life (any of the boundaries books) by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerich
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F Harley, Jr.
Have a New Husband by Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by Dr. David Burns
The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide, Second Edition: What You and Your Family Need to Know by David J. Miklowitz, PhD.
A good self-help book can act as a GPS program that offers advice about stops along the way, the toll-free routes, and travel times. Remember that it often takes years to get off track, and forming new habits might take just as long. But if we maintain a growth mindset, we will make progress!
Nurture Yourself Takeaway #5: You can find a treasure-trove of advice in self-help books. Don’t be afraid to buy one (or two, or ten) and start to learn from fellow travelers.
The next step to experiencing mental wholeness involves finding a pod.