October marks the national Eat Better, Eat Together Month. You probably didn’t know such a month existed. I didn’t. But with today’s busy lifestyles, eating together (or staying engaged with each other and not our devices) seems like a dying art. This month we’ll explore the mental, academic, physical, and spiritual benefits of eating together.

Unusual French Fries
“Mrs. Ojeda, do you want to try my French fries?” one of the boys ran over to our campsite and held out a packet of tinfoil.
“You made French fries over a campfire?” I looked inside and saw neatly sliced pieces of potatoes. “Sure, I’ll try one!”
“This is my second batch,” he said proudly. “I added more seasonings this time, so they taste better.”
“Delicious,” I proclaimed.
“I’m gonna try making something else,” he said, as he dashed back to the boys’ campsite.
I smiled. For the past hour, we’d listened as 12 young men experimented with preparing their own noon meal over a campfire. Instead of working as three different groups—they had three Dutch ovens, three fireplace rings, and all the utensils necessary—they had congregated at one campsite.
It took almost 30 minutes for them to start their fire and then decide what to make with the raw ingredients the school had provided. Instead of making camping stew with biscuits on top, the boys had gotten creative. They produced French fries, bread-on-a-stick, and baked potatoes. We had scheduled an hour and a half for lunch, but their shouts of laughter and creative endeavors made us change our plan.
Earlier in the week, each student had made lasagna and cobbler in their camp cooking class, and now they had the confidence to get artistic with their food preparation. For the first time in 15 years of doing Outdoor School with high school students, kids prepared three of their own meals.
The Art of Cooking
I had no idea the level of entertainment it would provide (both for the staff and the students). Who would have thought cooking could engender such creativity? I taught our girls the basics of cooking and baking, and I recall a few fun kitchen projects. We even hired our oldest daughter to prepare family dinners during a particularly busy time in our lives. But until I heard the giggles, guffaws, and belly laughs from the neighboring campsite, I had no idea boys could practice creativity in the kitchen, too.
For most of my life, I’ve enjoyed the art of cooking (and baking). I rarely use recipes (or precisely follow the ones I do use). I’ve never met a recipe I couldn’t tweak, modify, or change in some way. Perhaps I’ve developed this survival mechanism because I rarely check my cupboards before I start cooking.
In retrospect, I realize I rarely gave our girls unfettered time in the kitchen to just create. I worried too much about wasted ingredients, ruined meals, or unpalatable results. But without failures, creativity, and practice, we never really learn the art of cooking.
And when kids learn the art of cooking, they take ownership of what they eat and feel like an integral part of the family. If we want to eat better and eat together, we need buy-in from everyone in the family (in this case, the students).
If I would have announced to the students we’d have baked potatoes and biscuits for lunch, 90% of the students would have groaned and grumbled just a bit. But give them carrots, potatoes, veggie-burger, biscuit mix, onions, and garlic, and they’ll want to raid your spice collection and spend three laughter-filled hours preparing their own meal.
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You can teach the art of cooking to your children or grandchildren at any age. None of the boys had cooked over a campfire before, and few of them had made more than sandwiches or TV dinners at home. But all of them now feel empowered to experiment at home. These suggestions will help you start teaching creativity in the kitchen to your kids or grandkids at any age.
1. Start Young (but Start)

Our daughter has involved our grandson in meal preparation from the moment he could stand on a chair and showed interest. He started with cracking eggs, dumping pre-measured ingredients, and turning on the mixer.
It takes longer to have an eager helper in the kitchen, but the payoff in creativity will be worth the extra clean-up. I love baking with our grandson—and I love how his mom doesn’t mind the messes we make.
When we allow little ones to practice creativity in the kitchen, they gain confidence, fine motor skills, and buy-in for eating healthier.
2. Teach Safety
We didn’t just turn teens loose in the campground with matches, briquettes, and kindling. Each student understood how to build a fire, use briquettes, and the rudiments of heating a Dutch oven to a certain temperature.
To practice the art of cooking, kids need to know how to use the equipment at an age-appropriate level. Teach them how to use and clean sharp knives. Explain how to safely use mixers, turn on the stove or oven, and use hot pads. You know your children best, so you can determine ‘age-appropriate.’ If you cook with your grandchildren, check with their parents first.
3. Teach Nutrition
I modify most recipes I try to make them healthier. My French-fry-making student discovered he could have a tasty ‘French fry’ without baptizing his potatoes in oil. Instead, he relied on seasonings and rubbing a little oil on the potato slices.
Talk about the recipes as you plan and prepare. “I wonder how these brownies would taste if we used whole-wheat flour instead of white flour. Whole-wheat flour is better fuel for our bodies.”
Experiment. When we stopped using white flour about twenty years ago, we replaced some of the white flour with whole-wheat flour. As our palates adjusted, we used more whole-wheat flour and less white flour.
Try to keep the talk positive. “Some fats are ok, but we don’t want to eat too many. What could we do to this recipe to make it healthier?”
When we talk and listen while we prepare food, we allow our kids to exercise their creativity and learn about nutrition at the same time.
4. Teach Clean-Up
You’ll want to teach kids how to clean up after themselves, too. I always assumed everyone knew how to clean up after themselves. But the more time I spend with teens in my kitchen (my students), the more I realize the difference between kids who have learned how to clean up and kids who haven’t.
I use this rule of thumb—kids should clean up to the same degree they help make the mess. We shouldn’t expect our five-year-old grandson to leave a spotless kitchen after creating something in the kitchen. But if he does a fourth of the work, he can do a fourth of the cleaning. With supervision, he can load dirty dishes in the dishwasher or run the vacuum over the mounds of spilled flour on the floor.
Talk as you clean and explain why you do things a certain way. “We need to make sure and get all the crumbs off the counters and floors, so we don’t tempt mice, ants, or cockroaches into our kitchen.” Or, “If we put the measuring cups in the top rack like this, we’ll fit more dishes in the dishwasher.”
5. Enlist Everyone’s Help
One of my favorite childhood memories involves helping my family make lefse at Thanksgiving and Christmas. I would sit on the counter and roll the dough into little balls for my grandma to turn into lefse. As an older child, I took over keeping the lefse under wraps as each piece came off the hot griddle. Eventually, I moved on to turning the lefse with the special lefse spatula my dad had carved.
Everyone who entered the kitchen during lefse making took part. We worked together as a family to produce something everyone would enjoy. Find tasks for everyone—take out ingredients, turn the oven on, get out the mixer, line up the ingredients in the order needed, wash the dishes, and tidy up afterward.
Each task helps kids feel needed and valued. And kids who feel essential to their family develop resiliency. For an in-depth look at how doing chores and participating in family activities can have positive results in your child’s development, check out this post by Dona Matthews, Ph. D, a developmental psychologist, and author.
6. Planning, Procurement, and Preparation
If you want to practice creativity in the kitchen, take the time to let your kids help plan menus. Before they can read, they can give verbal suggestions. Once they learn to read, they can search cookbooks or the Internet to find dishes they want to try.
Kids can learn about budgeting, grocery shopping, and healthy eating by helping you plan, shop, and prepare food. Once your children reach their tween years, you can send them out through the grocery store to hunt for specific ingredients.
You’ll enjoy the payoff for investing the time to teach your children how to cook when you can turn the responsibility over to them as they get older. Once they get their driver’s license, you can send them grocery shopping in exchange for the use of the car.
Creativity in the Kitchen
You can nurture creativity in the kitchen at any age—even if you’ve never felt brave enough to try it before. Kids have a delightful sense of humor, and you may end up feeling refreshed instead of worn out. Or you may feel a little of both. Remember to give yourself plenty of time for your first adventures creativity in the kitchen adventures. I’ve discovered it takes at least twice as long to bake or cook when I have a young assistant.
Do you have anything to add to the list? What are some of your favorite memories of creativity in the kitchen as either a child or an adult?
I cooked with my kids and now my grandkids. It’s a great way to build a feeling of competence — and it’s FUN!
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I love this post Anita!
I taught my girls to cook & at a certain age each had to plan (within a budget) a nutritious meal & cook it for the family once a week.
One of my daughters loved it so much she went on to be a Chef!
I’m a country cook & have baked with my grandchildren, they too love time to be creative.
Blessings,
Jennifer
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I remember cooking with my babies sleeping and sitting on the large kitchen island and then they started watching and helping. It is amazing how children can learn beside you and then begin to do themselves. Love the story of the boys experimenting around the campfire.
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What a fun story about the creative camp cooking! I love creative cooking and cook much the same way you do for the same reasons. I never check for the ingredients because I know how to improvise. My kids have only expressed mild interest in the kitchen but when they do want to help I try to let them get creative but I often worry about the waste as well if something gets ruined. Reminder to self: Sometimes it’s okay to let that waste worry go! Great post!
Shelbee
This is such a fun post, Anita, because I have always loved cooking and baking with our kids and now granddaughters. Sure, it can be messy at times but … it’s fun and builds memories!
I so wish I’d been better at letting my girls help me in the kitchen. I was always wanting to get on to the next thing; and now I see what a mistake that it. I have done a little better with the grandkids but also could improve there as well.
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Great post Anita! Like many here, I taught my girls and my son! to cook at an early age. They all still love to be in the kitchen and excel in creativity. Though I think it’s in their blood, My Grandfather, Father and Brother were all professional chefs-it’s an Italian thing!
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I have such good memories of baking in the kitchen with my kids. (Strange, because I don’t actually like baking.) Someday there will be grandkids and I’m looking forward to doing the same with them!
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Sounds like your students had a lot of fun! I’m thankful my daughter-in-law has my grandson help in the kitchen. He’s so pleased when she serves something he has made or helped with.
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I miss when my kids were young enough to want to get in the kitchen with me!
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Love this! My son loves to help stir and dump ingredients!
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My grandmother would bake cookies with us. I still think of her when I bake.
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Anita, I loved this. It’s so fun to read the delight your students take when they have the freedom to experiment. 🙂 We used to have the boys pick one meal per week, first for me to cook, and then, as they grew older, we assigned each of them a night to plan and cook dinner. If they gave me their ingredient list early, I would buy the things needed. If they didn’t, they had to make a meal with what was on hand. Our oldest, now out of high school, is assigned one meal per week where he buys the needed ingredients (we supply the funds, since it’s for the family meal) and he makes dinner. It’s fun to watch him look online for new recipes.
Teaching our children to be efficient in the kitchen is important. My kids were up under my skirts. Standing on a chair, but learning not just how to cook, but how to be safe.
Their friends were amazed that “their mom let them use the stove and oven.”
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